When working through a divorce with your spouse, if you have children together, one of the biggest issues you'll have is determining how you will divide custody and where the kids will live. In some cases, parents can work this out between themselves. In other cases, the court has to help them if they cannot agree.
For many people, it's not hard to understand why they want a divorce. Where they struggle is putting that desire into action. They don't want to talk to their spouses about it and they dread having the conversation.
If you are going through a divorce, you likely have some negative feelings toward your ex. You may believe that they have exhibited behaviors that you would consider to be selfish, and you may also feel that they are trying to take advantage of you.