Many things can lead to divorce. Stress, money, intimacy issues and infidelity are all very common examples. However, it’s important to remember that there are less obvious issues, the ones people don’t talk about as much, that can still end a marriage.
One example is a power imbalance. A marriage needs some level of equality. Without it, the couple often cannot last.
Some experts talk about this in the emotional sense, noting that one person may do all of the “emotional heavy lifting.” That person may be more invested in the relationship than their partner. As a result, they feel like their partner is always checked out, and they have to work hard just to keep the relationship going. This can wear them out. When they finally decide to stop doing it, that can lead to divorce.
There are other types of power imbalances, as well, though. Maybe you feel like your spouse makes all of the decisions: when to have kids, where to live, what house to buy or where to go on vacation. Maybe you feel like your spouse gets to make every financial decision, and you have no freedom to buy or do what you want.
At the heart of it, every power imbalance makes one person feel inferior to the other. That’s the real issue. That setup can cause all manner of long-term problems, and it can cause resentment to build up over time.
Do you feel like you recognize your marriage in these examples? If you do end up getting divorced as a result, make sure you know what legal steps to take.