If you want a prenup, here is how to ask

As a business owner, maybe you want a prenup to protect your company and your assets. You don’t want to get divorced — you’re not even married yet — but you have worked hard for this company. You need to know it’s safe, no matter what happens.

Asking your partner for a prenup can be complicated. You don’t want them to feel like you already have one foot out the door. The best thing you can do is to explain your reasoning. Tell them that you have to think about others — your business partners, for instance, or your employees — and this is just one way to do it. Tell them it has less to do with the relationship and more to do with your company and the legal side of the business.

Along with that, a few other tips include:

  • Working together to draft the prenup so that your partner doesn’t feel like you’re working against them.
  • Talking about it as far in advance as possible so they know about it from the get-go, and they don’t think you’re getting cold feet.
  • Giving them a chance to talk and really listening to what they have to say.
  • Being open to their ideas or to making changes over time.
  • Talking calmly and compassionately about the process, especially if they are not that receptive to it at first.

The key is to show them that you still care about them and you hope to never use the prenup, but you still want it. Then you can begin looking into the legal steps you need to take.